Just read your article was happy to see someone take a realistic approach. Swinging is NOT for everyone. Most people are not emotionally or psychologically able to handle it. We have been swingers, off and on, for many years.
One point that I think was missed is the fact that sex and love are two different things. This is where many women get taken advantage of. Most men can handle sex for the sake of sex. But most women equate sex with love. This is the source of most problems.
My wife and I are soulmates. Just like your other successful swinger cpls we are completely open and honest with each other. This is the ONLY way it will ever work. And we seperate love and sex. When we are intimate with each other we are making love. When we decide to play with others it is simple recreation. Also, we never play solo. We only play as a couple. We both prefer this as we enjoy seeing each other enjoying ourselves.
Thanks again for the great article and for the honesty. If you are interested in more from us please feel free to get in touch.
{BTW, we met at a swingers club and have been together ever since that night}