There are ways of getting around the DOMA law, One is to have everyone you know write every they know, ect., and write every major casino, government, and business entity and inform them they won't come to Nevada until the ban is lifted. And stick to it. If gays and their support buttresses Nevada financially by coming here, then where's the incentive, especially if this is being cast a financial issue and not one of equity?

The second is to get the state to recognize your marriage in subtle ways with your same sex marriage certificate from California. That's what I did, the story is here:

DMV Policy on Gay Married Names
Zechariah Hillyard
Kevin Malone, Public Information Officer, NV DMV
... on a recent newlywed's three failed attempts at the DMV to change the last name on his driver's license to his new married name. The agency at first would not recognize his marriage certificate from California, basing their decision on Nevada's Defense of Marriage Act.

http://www.knpr.org/audio2008/mp3/080827...

Send this to as many people as you can who were married in California. I've had many public institutions, even on the federal level, recognize this certificate. It's a start.